Everyone wants children to be beautiful, soft by nature, charming, well-mannered, successful, active and smart. All of these attributes are wonderful and lead to a well-rounded personality. Children with these aspects by nature and personality are bound to succeed in life. But all these beautiful attributes have no potential if a person is not responsible for their actions.
Responsible behavior is what children objectively need to be successful in adult life. But from a subjective point of view, it is much easier for the younger generation when parents are responsible for everything. Why be responsible for something if there is a mom and dad? And yet, adults should think about how to teach a child responsibility and educate him to make independent decisions.
Responsibility is a sense of duty in a person, in relation to how he relates to responsibility for his own actions. In order to have a fulfilling life, it is very important to have the trait of a responsible person. People who know how to be responsible surround themselves with wonderful people. They are a valuable resource for everyone around them. Other people can count on them and trust them easily. It improves life by keeping things simple and straightforward. Whereas in the life of an irresponsible person, everything becomes more complicated, be it their personal or professional life.
In the most general sense, responsibility is understood as the ability of an individual to recognize and accept the consequences of a voluntarily performed action. Independence is often associated with this concept, which, although it is close in meaning to responsibility, still has significant differences. Childhood independence can be described in two words: “myself.” It is the ability of a toddler or adolescent to act without the intervention and active support of an adult. Responsibility is described in other words: “I will do it.” Simply put, the child complies with the agreement and does on his own what he promised to do.
As for the chronological order, independence first appears, and responsibility develops on its basis. The younger preschooler can also be independent, doing the cleaning, dressing, and eating with a spoon on their own. But adolescents are usually responsible, and then with proper upbringing.
You certainly don’t want to imagine a life full of hardships and difficulties for your children. Taking responsibility in your children becomes the most important aspect of parenting. You take care of your children and you want them to have an independent and dignified life, so that when you are not in their life, they can have a functional life. You should try to instill responsibility in your children from the very beginning. This is not something they can learn on their own. A person is never too young to learn responsibility, so teach them how to be responsible from the moment they begin to understand things around them. Let’s take a look at some guidelines that can be effective in teaching your children responsibility:
As we mentioned above, it is never too early to teach your children responsibility. As soon as the child begins to react to the environment around him, this means that he began to master and adapt to it. It is said that a person learns best and fastest until the age of six. When your child begins to demonstrate an understanding of things around him, you should start teaching him responsibility. It is better to start teaching responsibility earlier than to try later when the child is probably already accustomed to leading a life without any responsibilities.
Children imitate their parents. Parents are role models and inspiration. If they notice that their parents are doing something or acting or reacting in a certain way, then it makes them understand that this is an acceptable behavior and it is really worthwhile to behave that way, feel and express. Parents need to be very careful with their children and practice what they preach. If you want your children to be responsible, then you must project the same responsibility. In each of their little acts, they should be able to see your sense of responsibility.
Start with small acts
Teach your children to be responsible, starting with the little things. You can ask them to clean their own room, make the bed, collect all the toys, ask them to look after the pet, etc. These little things make their character. They will understand the meaning of responsibility from a very early age, through constructive things. It will soon become part of their daily routine. You can also give them small tasks to help them feel more responsible, such as asking them to take care of a houseplant by watering it every day. This will allow them to become mature and responsible.
Give them decisive strength
Let your kids be decision makers in their own world. Do not consider them dependent creatures, treat them as people with your own opinion and mind. Let them feel that they have their own point of view on the issues and act on them. The realization that their thoughts and actions are powerful will create a sense of responsibility in them.
Praise them every time they make an act of responsibility. Let them know they are being watched and admired for responsible behavior. They will feel that their efforts will not be in vain. It will grow in their minds that being responsible is valued, and that means this is what is expected of them. Once they associate responsibility with rewards, when they grow up, they will understand the benefits of responsibility.
Children are inherently innocent by nature. There are times when they make mistakes or don’t know about the concept of responsibility at all. You must be patient. You need to set reasonable and achievable goals. Don’t put too many responsibilities on them. Don’t get annoyed when they don’t complete their tasks. Understand all problems and shortcomings and deal with them accordingly.
Be a support system and coach
Encourage your kids. Be always ready to help so that you can feel safe. Whenever they cannot be held accountable, mention carefully and carefully. Do not harm their personality and do not try to turn them into something that does not exist.